Emma's Journey to Baby

Planning for a Surprise...the irony!

Pregnancy Week 31.

Weight: Kid’s Bouncy Castle
Advice: The word you are looking for is "Radiant" ;-)

I thought I would engage with you this month about a topic that comes up quite frequently on my journey…

The sex of the baby… and how can you prepare for its arrival when you are not in ‘the know!’…

As you ‘ll know from my earlier blogs, we have decided not to find out the sex of our baby. This did lead to a funny conversation with our friend the other month when he asked ‘What sex you having?” and we replied “None” ;-)

But that’s a story for another day…

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So the age old question - How do you plan/prepare when you don't know what sex your baby is going to be?...

I have been asked this quite a few times over the last few months, from colleagues and friends and even tonight on my way home from work at the Petrol station the cashier asked me "What are you having? " and when I said a surprise he said "But how can you plan?"...

My response has always been this:

“Well I don't think knowing the sex of my baby will help me prepare for Motherhood”

And it’s true isn't it? I do not think knowing if baby is ‘pink or blue’ will help me to prepare for his or her entry into this crazy beautiful chaotic world any more than listening to all the advice that is available and trying to decipher it in a hypothetical sense…

With regards to getting the Nursery ready or buying clothes I can see what people mean though and as so many people find out nowadays what 'sex' they are having I think that it requires less need from manufacturers to supply ‘non-gender specific’ baby items.

I referred earlier to if baby is pink or blue. It’s mad in this day and age that we still associate a colour with a baby isn’t it? It certainly seems more acceptable for a baby girl to wear blue than it is for a baby boy to wear pink. Why is this? My husband has pink shirts and t-shirts and it is common to see grown men in pink. We don’t bat an eyelid do we, in fact I think it brings out his eyes ;-). And my favourite colour is blue, and I’m a girl! Go figure…

If I said to you let's play Word Association and I said "Tree" you'd most likely say Green and if I said "Sun" you'd probably say Yellow, "Girl" you'd probably say pink and "Boy", blue.

But girls aren't pink and boys aren't blue. So where did the whole blue/pink stereotype come from?

It hasn't always been this way, in fact quite the contrary! Back in June 1918 history records show an article from a trade publication in America called  Earnshaw’s Infants’ Department, which wrote, "The generally accepted rule is pink for the boys, and blue for the girls. The reason is that pink, being a more decided and stronger colour, is more suitable for the boy, while blue, which is more delicate and dainty, is prettier for the girl." 

 

Imagine that? 

It wasn’t actually until the 1940’s that retailers and manufacturers decided on pink for girls and blue for boys! So exactly as I predicted, it was retailers and manufacturers who decided that this would work for advertising and so the gender divide was born. Before this at the beginning of the century,  Children of both sexes would wear white dresses up to age 6. Yes girls AND  boys in dresses!

It hasn't been easy buying nursery bedding or clothes in bright colours as everything does seem so gender specific but we have managed to buy some gorgeous pieces from Jurnie where we got a yellow vest with a rainbow on, an apple green onesie and a white baby grow with a bumble bee on.  All could be worn by a boy or girl we feel. But how frustrating that we even have to think like this. In a world where we are so lucky that the population is so diverse and we live in a time where we celebrate differences, it's hard to believe that before our baby is even born we are deciding what colour clothes it can and can't wear in order to fit in to society! …

So I'm not sure what the moral of my story is, but just know that if you do decide to have a surprise, it's OK not to know what colours to buy. My mum said someone said to her once about me "What a lovely little boy" and I was dressed head to toe in pink, “pink!” she  recalls, and they thought you were a boy!! And that was in the 1980’s.

It is probably easier when you have one child already to find out what sex the second one is as I know many people do find out second time to save money as if they know what they are going to be blesses with, they can pass gender specific clothes and items down to their second child.  

 

But I do think it would be nice to live in a world where baby items were not so blue or pink specific just like the adult world. Maybe one day... 

 

For now though. I've only got 9 weeks until my due date. I wonder if baby will be 'pink or blue', but whatever it is,  I hope he or she leads a colourful life. 

 

Lots of love from Emma and her effervescent bump x 

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